An Act of Courage: Accepting - and Loving - What Is

February 24, 2016
Byron Katie
Byron Katie

If you’re not familiar with Byron Katie, read below to get a sense of the gift she has brought to the world in the form of tirelessly encouraging us to stay present, accept, and love what is. 


“Don't believe everything you think.”


“When you argue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.”


“There’s only one thing harder than accepting what is, and that is not accepting it.”


“Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don't have to like it... it's just easier if you do.”


"A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering.


“I am a lover of what is, not because I’m a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality. We can know that reality is good just as it is, because when we argue with it, we experience tension and frustration. We don’t feel natural or balanced. When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.”


“Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them”


“Isn’t it marvelous to discover that you’re the one you’ve been waiting for? That you are your own freedom?”


“We’re all looking for love, in our confusion, until we find our way back to the realization that love is what we already are.”


“Thoughts are like the breeze or the leaves on the trees or the raindrops falling. They appear like that, and through inquiry* we can make friends with them. Would you argue with a raindrop? Raindrops aren’t personal, and neither are thoughts. Once a painful concept is met with understanding, the next time it appears you may find it interesting. What used to be the nightmare is now just interesting. The next time it appears, you may find it funny. The next time, you may not even notice it. This is the power of loving what is.”


“I don’t know what’s best for me or you or the world. I don’t try to impose my will on you or on anyone else. I don’t want to change you or improve you or convert you or help you or heal you. I just welcome things as they come and go. That’s true love. The best way of leading people is to let them find their own way.”


“All the advice you ever gave your partner is for you to hear”

“The miracle of love comes to you in the presence of the uninterpreted moment. If you are mentally somewhere else, you miss real life.”



* "Inquiry" refers to Byron Katie's process called The Work, which is essentially four questions that help us question our thoughts, and ultimately end the suffering we create for ourselves with our thinking.  I use The Work in my coaching all the time.  If you would like to learn more, please contact me.



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